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Princess Clover’s Birth Story

Born June 4, 2016 1:28 a.m.

9 lbs 6.5 oz, 21 1/2 inches

Midwives of Hale Kealaula; Selena Green and Jaymie Lewis

Photos by Jenna Toilolo; Captivating Creation Photography https://m.facebook.com/captivatingcreation

It all began a few weeks prior with a few light surges during the early morning hours and I was sure that this little ‘boy’ (I swore up and down that I was carrying a boy throughout the entire pregnancy lol) was going to arrive earlier than his EDD.

However March 27th came and went and still no Clover baby.  Of course, being a Midwife in training I knew that ‘he’ would come in his own good time.  Daddy however was getting a bit anxious and wanted to make sure that I had a ‘Plan B’ should baby not come by 42 weeks.  I assured him that we had pre-registered with Queen’s hospital so we could go there if our OB (wonderful Dr. Bliss Kaneshiro, who I heard isn’t accepting new patients at this time) thought it was necessary.

The morning of June 3rd, I picked up my children in Kapolei, did some errands and went grocery shopping all while having some pretty consistent surges 🙂  Walking through the isles of Sack n Save in Nanakuli pausing and holding on to the cart while telling my son to hold on a second lol.  Of course my wonderful Midwife; Selena Green was aware and had told my amazing Midwife Sister; Jaymie that I was having some surges.

When we got home we put things away and settled in to have dinner, still having some surges once in a while; and then while sitting in my seat on our ‘new’ couch, my water broke.  Daddy was a little surprised as he was setting up the grill outside to BBQ some ribs and was a little taken a back by the liquid on the ground (I stood up after the first gush).

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My midwife called to double check how fast my births were after waters broke and I told her that both my previous births were 5 hours.  So she let Jaymie and my beautiful friend Jenna who would be taken these amazing photos know that it was time to come.  As predicted the surges came stronger and longer, though I was able to eat and drink fine, joke around and help give daddy some directions on what could be done before the Midwives arrived.

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After that is basically a blur but I do remember holding everyone’s hands while laboring in the pool.  Getting an ice pop, laughing, being on hands and knees and moaning but most of all as it was getting to the most intense point.  Jaymie was whispering in my ear to let the energy go down and out, so when the surges came I did just that.  It helped tremendously and I remember pushing not long after that, it seemed like not very long but it was probably about an hour of pushing her down.

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When her head emerged, I thought it would be quick that she would slide out as my previous to babies did.  However little Clover’s shoulders were stuck and Jaymie had to get her little arm out first before she was fully birthed at 1:28 a.m. on Saturday June the 4th.  As soon as she came out she wasn’t breathing for a bit so we rubbed up her back but still no breaths, so I gave her a few puffs as we are trained to (just the air that’s in your mouth, not big breaths) and I heard her first little gasp.  We gave her a little bit of O2 also and she slowly came around and began breathing on her own.

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We didn’t know the sex of our baby yet, so I quickly flipped her bottom over to see and saw that I had been wrong the entire pregnancy.  My ‘boy’ was a little girl, my daughter Cierra and daddy were quite happy with the news!  I was in complete shock lol

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Then I saw that there was quite a bit of blood in the water and I could hear Selena and Jaymie saying that I needed to get out of the pool so they could monitor my bleeding.  I got a shot of Pitocin, some Hemhalt tincture and eventually a placenta shake to control the bleeding.

As soon as I was out of the pool and on the couch-bed in the living room I felt the most horrible migraine I have ever had come on.  (Towards the last days, I finally got upset and actually cried out to, “bring it on!”  It hurt so bad, it honestly couldn’t get any worse)

After that I was in a fog and just knew that I was in pain.  Everyone tried to help remedy the pain but it just wouldn’t subside and finally I called my beautiful friend Mileka to ask if she would please come and massage my migraine away.  She was a God sent and the migraine subsided enough that I finally felt I was able to enjoy this little baby girl.  After a few days I noticed that my thirst could not be quenched no matter how much water I drank and I was hospitalized for dehydration.  We began loading me up with electrolytes and soon I felt like there was hope at the end of the tunnel.

The migraine still persisted so I called on the chiropractor I had seen prenatally and that we send all our clients at Hale Kealaula to; Dr. Christine Lipat at Niu Health Chiropractic.  She adjusted baby and I and we both were SO much happier, Clover had been a bit fussy at the breast for a while but after she was adjusted was doing wonderfully.

Of course after all of that, my breastfeeding was a bit hampered and I had to start little Clover on some formula (which still kills me a bit) and we are now doing well with both.

Fast forward to today and Princess Clover is a very expressive, talkative, loving, happy and beautiful baby’s in the world 🙂

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We have had so much support since pregnancy and we wouldn’t have been able to be sane and doing well without you all:  our co-workers (too many to list), family; the Yadao ohana especially Aunty Roxanne and Aunty Noella who were one of the first visitors we had and the Skal ohana who have been supportive and sending their love and support from day one, love you all.

We’re most grateful for our birth team who had to come almost every day post-partum for one reason or another with me (we always say birth workers/body workers are always the ones that need the most care lol and it was no different with me!)  Selena, Valerie, Jaymie…Adam and I are so eternally grateful for all your care and love.

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Photos by Captivating Creation Photography https://m.facebook.com/captivatingcreation

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“Bait and Switch” Maternity Care

Many women have had this happen.

Whether they knew something was not quite right and didn’t know who to tell, or just didn’t think it was ‘ok’ to say anything against the doctor.

I’ve had conversations with so many people saying how their doctor promised things that were music to their ears to hear, that made them think this was the ’empowering doctor’ they have been looking for.

Only to have the doctor do a 180 turn and do exactly what the parents said they didn’t want to happen, say they didn’t have a choice, or that they were putting their child’s life in jeopardy if they didn’t listen.

Please share your stories, read this article and share with all you know ❤

http://birthmonopoly.com/caroline/

An excerpt:

“I interviewed an OB/GYN at Brookwood during my first trimester. He told me the interventions I received during my first three births were unnecessary and risky. He criticized routine use of the drug pitocin (medication to speed up labor and control hemorrhage). He said there was no need to be confined to the bed, not even during monitoring. He explained how laboring in upright positions alleviates pain, increases blood flow, helps position the baby properly, and opens up the pelvis. He told me research showed no benefit in continuous monitoring for low risk women like me; in fact, intermittent monitoring was recommended. He told me that letting the normal physiological process play out would be safest for my baby and me—which aligned with all of the research I’d been doing. Finally, after much thought and prayer, I switched hospitals during my 20th week of pregnancy. I hired a doula, read a big stack of birth books, exercised, and ate a healthy diet. I carefully made a birth plan based on best medical research, approved my doctor. I was ready! Fast-forward to the night of baby Jack’s birth in 2012. After laboring freely at home for several hours through some mild contractions, I arrived at the hospital and met my nurse. And that’s when it all started: “Put on your gown and use the restroom now because you won’t be able to get out of bed for the next twenty minutes, and possibly for the rest of your labor.” “But my doctor said I could labor however I wanted.” “Well, your doctor’s not on call.” What?! The contradiction between the marketing and the reality was so shocking that for a second I thought to myself, have I walked into the wrong hospital? I knew there was no medical evidence for what she was asking me to do. I asked her where the birth tub was because my birth plan included water birth, and she informed me my room didn’t accommodate a tub. I told her over and over that my doctor promised me I could walk around during monitoring, but she continued demanding I get in the bed on my back so she could hook me up to the wired monitor instead of the wireless one I was promised.”

http://birthmonopoly.com/caroline/

Home Birth #12…

I need to go back

and look at my records to see which number birth this was exactly but I’m pretty sure this was #12 😉

This mama is so cute and very fiesty

She had her first baby in the hospital and had such a bad experience that she was going against all her family’s statements of fear of the unknown, the fear of the misconceptions and accusations and had her second baby at her home.

Waking in the early morning hours she wondered if what she was feeling was ‘real’, a few hours later, she called her Midwives.  We arrived about an hour later, set up, did the usual vitals, set up the birth tub etc.  She was so strong and did excellent with every surge and continued around the house, cooking, making sure her mom was on a plane over and everyone else was taken care of and had breakfast. 

When transition came and the pool was ready for her.  She had read that pushing felt good to some women but for some reason she REALLY didn’t like it…until later.

Toilets are really under appreciated tools for labor and birth 😉

Mom needed time alone to herself and sat on the toilet for a few surges, then yelled for Selena to come in.  Baby was born a few minutes later.

We got her on the bed, nursing , as she ate and drank.  Older sister came in with daddy and they huddled on their bed, sister already protecting her baby brother.  As we did his newborn check, she made sure to tell us to be gentle and that he didn’t like it cause he was crying lol…such a great big sister.

As soon as he was born, her first words were, “I did it!”, “We did it baby, we did it together!”, “I can’t believe I did it”, “I feel so amazing, I could do it all over again.”

Mom thanked us and said she couldn’t have done it without us and Selena told her that she did, she did do it without us.  Mom just said, that we got her to a place where she could be by herself for a bit and then have her baby and that she was extremely grateful.

He looks just like his strong sister and mom and they gave him a great strong name too.

We left them all in their bedroom together, watching t.v., mom eating and baby resting soundly on her chest.

Nothing compares to the joy, love, reverence and overwhelming amazement of witnessing women, babies and families being created in so much love, right in front of your eyes and being able to hold the space for it to unfold.

Except for being the birthing mother

Improving Birth-Rally for Change Honolulu

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Why I’m rallying to improve birth

Hearing my grandmother’s and my mother’s birth stories, I realized first hand what was being talked about in “The Business of Being Born”.

My grandmother had given birth in a hospital where she remembers only being shaved, given drugs and waking up to my mother in her arms.  My mother is an only child.

My mother would tell my birth story to me a few times in my life and it was always with no fear and with a sense that birth was just a natural part of life.

In the BOBB, we learn about the “Twilight Sleep” era, then during the 70’s the resurgence of natural births and breastfeeding.  Unfortunately, my births were also very ‘mainstream’ after not listening to my intuition, I had both of my babies at a hospital.

While my experiences were not as horrific as others, for me, my daughters birth felt stolen.  I didn’t know who to tell, what to do, or that I had a ‘reason’ to feel the way I did.

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After seeing “The Business of Being Born”, doing research, taking workshops and submerging myself into anything that had to do with birth, I realized that women are still being used as experiments.

My reason for rallying, is that this madness needs to stop.

Our daughters deserve better, our babies deserve better, we deserve better.

Birth matters

Doula Tea

Doula Tea

Doula Tea has been taking place at Baby aWEARness for quite some time and grows with each subsequent gathering.

It’s so great to see families, women and partners, coming together to get questions answered and bring ease to their minds about the birth they envision having.

Please share with all you know about the next Doula Tea happening this coming Sunday, from 1 to 3 p.m. at the Baby aWEARness store in Manoa.

Look forward to seeing you there!

Via Baby aWEARness site:

Doula curious?

Enjoy some tea samples while learning all about doulas.

Stop by the store and meet some of Honolulu’s finest certified doulas and get all your questions answered. Find out how having a doula can be helpful to you and your partner and baby-to-come.

A few questions and topics to think about and explore:

Who should come to my birth?
Why hire a doula?
What are the benefits of having a doula?

Coping with labor, the doula way

First Home Birth Experience

Hard to describe how I feel after being with a mama who birthed at home, in a tub filled with warm water after having a cesarean and 3 other hospital births.
 
Then having seen only hospital births thus far, I can say that birth is birth, it unfolds differently each and every time. The difference, is that there was no one telling someone what they needed to do, how they need to lay and stay still, no yelling of how or when to push, no cold a/c room, machines beeping loudly and annoyingly to distract from the mom and baby.
No, this birth was peaceful and filled with love as daddy encouraged his wife and mother of his children and caught his newest pride and joy…
Makes me even more passionate and determined to guide women to find their strength and desires for their births.
As I cry and pray that women will realize this amazing power they have is what they are giving up when they buy into the fear and degradation of medicalized, profit driven births.
I know one day, the world will no longer need activists for love, truth and empowerment for women and families.

Doula Tea at Baby aWEARness

Doula Tea at Baby aWEARness

FREE Event

Sunday, July 22nd

1 p.m. to 3 p.m. 

Manoa Marketplace, 2nd floor

(above Subway)

2752 Woodlawn Drive, Suite 5-209

Honolulu, HI 96822

 

 

Doula curious?

Enjoy some Earth Mama tea samples while learning all about doulas.
Stop by the store and meet some of Honolulu’s finest certified doulas and get all your questions answered. 

Find out how having a doula can be helpful to you and your partner and baby-to-come.

A few questions and topics to think about and explore:
Who should come to my birth?
Why hire a doula?
What are the benefits of having a doula?

Coping with labor, the doula way
The Doula Tea is offered every other month and is free and open to the public. 

Please check our calendar for dates and times or contact:
Piper Lovemore at 861-7168