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Princess Clover’s Birth Story

Born June 4, 2016 1:28 a.m.

9 lbs 6.5 oz, 21 1/2 inches

Midwives of Hale Kealaula; Selena Green and Jaymie Lewis

Photos by Jenna Toilolo; Captivating Creation Photography https://m.facebook.com/captivatingcreation

It all began a few weeks prior with a few light surges during the early morning hours and I was sure that this little ‘boy’ (I swore up and down that I was carrying a boy throughout the entire pregnancy lol) was going to arrive earlier than his EDD.

However March 27th came and went and still no Clover baby.  Of course, being a Midwife in training I knew that ‘he’ would come in his own good time.  Daddy however was getting a bit anxious and wanted to make sure that I had a ‘Plan B’ should baby not come by 42 weeks.  I assured him that we had pre-registered with Queen’s hospital so we could go there if our OB (wonderful Dr. Bliss Kaneshiro, who I heard isn’t accepting new patients at this time) thought it was necessary.

The morning of June 3rd, I picked up my children in Kapolei, did some errands and went grocery shopping all while having some pretty consistent surges 🙂  Walking through the isles of Sack n Save in Nanakuli pausing and holding on to the cart while telling my son to hold on a second lol.  Of course my wonderful Midwife; Selena Green was aware and had told my amazing Midwife Sister; Jaymie that I was having some surges.

When we got home we put things away and settled in to have dinner, still having some surges once in a while; and then while sitting in my seat on our ‘new’ couch, my water broke.  Daddy was a little surprised as he was setting up the grill outside to BBQ some ribs and was a little taken a back by the liquid on the ground (I stood up after the first gush).

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My midwife called to double check how fast my births were after waters broke and I told her that both my previous births were 5 hours.  So she let Jaymie and my beautiful friend Jenna who would be taken these amazing photos know that it was time to come.  As predicted the surges came stronger and longer, though I was able to eat and drink fine, joke around and help give daddy some directions on what could be done before the Midwives arrived.

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After that is basically a blur but I do remember holding everyone’s hands while laboring in the pool.  Getting an ice pop, laughing, being on hands and knees and moaning but most of all as it was getting to the most intense point.  Jaymie was whispering in my ear to let the energy go down and out, so when the surges came I did just that.  It helped tremendously and I remember pushing not long after that, it seemed like not very long but it was probably about an hour of pushing her down.

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When her head emerged, I thought it would be quick that she would slide out as my previous to babies did.  However little Clover’s shoulders were stuck and Jaymie had to get her little arm out first before she was fully birthed at 1:28 a.m. on Saturday June the 4th.  As soon as she came out she wasn’t breathing for a bit so we rubbed up her back but still no breaths, so I gave her a few puffs as we are trained to (just the air that’s in your mouth, not big breaths) and I heard her first little gasp.  We gave her a little bit of O2 also and she slowly came around and began breathing on her own.

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We didn’t know the sex of our baby yet, so I quickly flipped her bottom over to see and saw that I had been wrong the entire pregnancy.  My ‘boy’ was a little girl, my daughter Cierra and daddy were quite happy with the news!  I was in complete shock lol

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Then I saw that there was quite a bit of blood in the water and I could hear Selena and Jaymie saying that I needed to get out of the pool so they could monitor my bleeding.  I got a shot of Pitocin, some Hemhalt tincture and eventually a placenta shake to control the bleeding.

As soon as I was out of the pool and on the couch-bed in the living room I felt the most horrible migraine I have ever had come on.  (Towards the last days, I finally got upset and actually cried out to, “bring it on!”  It hurt so bad, it honestly couldn’t get any worse)

After that I was in a fog and just knew that I was in pain.  Everyone tried to help remedy the pain but it just wouldn’t subside and finally I called my beautiful friend Mileka to ask if she would please come and massage my migraine away.  She was a God sent and the migraine subsided enough that I finally felt I was able to enjoy this little baby girl.  After a few days I noticed that my thirst could not be quenched no matter how much water I drank and I was hospitalized for dehydration.  We began loading me up with electrolytes and soon I felt like there was hope at the end of the tunnel.

The migraine still persisted so I called on the chiropractor I had seen prenatally and that we send all our clients at Hale Kealaula to; Dr. Christine Lipat at Niu Health Chiropractic.  She adjusted baby and I and we both were SO much happier, Clover had been a bit fussy at the breast for a while but after she was adjusted was doing wonderfully.

Of course after all of that, my breastfeeding was a bit hampered and I had to start little Clover on some formula (which still kills me a bit) and we are now doing well with both.

Fast forward to today and Princess Clover is a very expressive, talkative, loving, happy and beautiful baby’s in the world 🙂

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We have had so much support since pregnancy and we wouldn’t have been able to be sane and doing well without you all:  our co-workers (too many to list), family; the Yadao ohana especially Aunty Roxanne and Aunty Noella who were one of the first visitors we had and the Skal ohana who have been supportive and sending their love and support from day one, love you all.

We’re most grateful for our birth team who had to come almost every day post-partum for one reason or another with me (we always say birth workers/body workers are always the ones that need the most care lol and it was no different with me!)  Selena, Valerie, Jaymie…Adam and I are so eternally grateful for all your care and love.

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Photos by Captivating Creation Photography https://m.facebook.com/captivatingcreation

Improving Birth-Rally for Change Honolulu

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Why I’m rallying to improve birth

Hearing my grandmother’s and my mother’s birth stories, I realized first hand what was being talked about in “The Business of Being Born”.

My grandmother had given birth in a hospital where she remembers only being shaved, given drugs and waking up to my mother in her arms.  My mother is an only child.

My mother would tell my birth story to me a few times in my life and it was always with no fear and with a sense that birth was just a natural part of life.

In the BOBB, we learn about the “Twilight Sleep” era, then during the 70’s the resurgence of natural births and breastfeeding.  Unfortunately, my births were also very ‘mainstream’ after not listening to my intuition, I had both of my babies at a hospital.

While my experiences were not as horrific as others, for me, my daughters birth felt stolen.  I didn’t know who to tell, what to do, or that I had a ‘reason’ to feel the way I did.

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After seeing “The Business of Being Born”, doing research, taking workshops and submerging myself into anything that had to do with birth, I realized that women are still being used as experiments.

My reason for rallying, is that this madness needs to stop.

Our daughters deserve better, our babies deserve better, we deserve better.

Birth matters

The Saga to Accept Nature

The Fifth Home Birth

I was blessed to be a witness of a birth that is the most thought provoking one for me so far.  First, the parents were planning another hospital birth after their first born, a son, was born there.  However mom had a feeling she wanted to do things a different way.  She got in touch with a childbirth educator, who brought her to a talk featuring Midwife; Selena Green from Hale Kealaula.

From her first words of introduction she had tears.  Tears for what she knew she wanted for her baby and for herself with this birth and the feeling of not having an option or support brought the tears.

Luckily she continued to go back to learn more about cloth diapering and took a childbirth education class, which only empowered her thoughts of birthing out of the hospital.

She connected with Selena again and she and her husband decided to birth with her and at Hale Kealaula.  They came to their first Centering Pregnancy group, which brings together all the families birthing with Selena and talking about their experiences and thoughts/questions.  At their second, it branched into a father’s group and a moms group, so both got more information and confirmation they were doing what was right for them.

The Birth

Mom and dad were a little nervous when they first arrived and anxious too.  He did well listening when we let him know he could rest and provided her with comfort measures and reassuring words when she needed them.  There came a time when mom needed to let go and surrender but her fear and desire for it to be over NOW made progress slow for a little while.  But Selena let her know that she would have to be patient and that she was safe and cared for her in that place where she felt vulnerable.  She got to the place of being in the trance and pushed her baby girl out in the caul in only 30 minutes, with dad there to catch his first daughter on Father’s day.

Provoking Thoughts

As soon as baby girl was born, her grandfather called (the only call that came in) from the continent asking to see how mom was doing.  He was greeted by the first cries of his first grand-daughter.

A little while later, dad shared his thoughts about the differences he noticed between having had his son in the hospital and his daughter at the birth home.  He first mentioned that of course the drugs were not there, so the availability of them to be brought up and used was not an issue (nor would it be offered several times throughout the birth).  This made him think about the differences in the way his babies were treated when they first arrived.  His son, was limp and didn’t respond right away and had to be taken to the warmer immediately after birth.  We know this is in large part due to the epidural and pitocin given to mom and not only that but the handling of his babies was VERY different.  He understood now that giving baby to mom right away makes the most sense, after all she had been in her mother for nine months and would be comforted by her smell, heartbeat and breathing sounds.  Where as his son was jostled and handled like a piece of meat and not given to his wife until much later after he was born.  Even the temperament difference in his two babies at birth, he saw that his daughter was much more content, where his son was crying more and seemed under stress…dad had been a skeptic from the beginning and it wasn’t until he saw and felt with his own two eyes and heart, that they had made a great decision and the one that made them both feel more content.

Mom got to speak with her mother after the birth, who also happens to be a NICU nurse.  Of course most of her fear and anxiety came from her mother telling her the horror stories she sees in the NICU every day and just the shear number of them.  After the birth however, her mother shared that she was glad she had chosen to have baby at the birth home, where the hospital couldn’t interfere.  For that week at the hospital she worked at,  she had seen a few babies who had been so mishandled by the hospital that they ended up going to the NICU because of it.

A few hours after baby was born, the family slept, mom showered and ate and they packed up their belongings and went home to share their new baby with the family and big brother (who wouldn’t eat breakfast cause he was worried about mommy).

This may not sound like an epic saga to you

When I think about that place they came from in their thoughts and fears and how mom persevered and dad trusted his wife, how beliefs were changed and molded, trust was built and strengthened, a  family gained a member and the world stepped ONE BIRTH closer to LOVE, PEACE and normalizing nature, can’t think of a greater story.

Cesarean Mama in the Birth Goddess Club

Cesarean Mama in the Birth Goddess Club

Days like yesterday are the counter for the negative aspects of this story.  
Students we spoke with at UH wrote 4 amazing pages of little notes thanking us for coming…that brought what ever single person striving for betterment of births, home.  Most spoke of options, how they’re glad we shared, that they learned so much.
Then nursing students visited Hale Kealaula and after speaking with Selena, supported their friend who is hapai, rather than siding with fear and doubting her decisions.
Mother’s from all stages, gathered yesterday at the birth home with their partners and families, sharing experiences, encouraging one another, validating that inner voice that’s been telling them they have everything they need to grow and birth their babies.  

Doctors know about what to do when the wrong things happen but rarely know how to treat a woman when things are normal.  

What’s normal for you?  Midwifery discovers with you what that is, empowers you to explore it, know it and be it for your birth.

It’s YOURS and your babies, please don’t try to give it away…

Human Right: Childbirth

Women, babies and family’s are having their rights taken away consciously or unconsciously.

Persecution of birth attendants and lessening options for birthing women is taking away basic human rights. The rights for a family to choose, where and with whom they birth.

Blog Talk Radio is a great show and today’s was about a Midwife in North Carolina named Rowan Bailey who has been arrested.

Realize that our maternal and infant mortality rates in the United States are worse than 47 other developed countries. Home births are less than 1% of births in the U.S., which means the majority of deaths are from births that were in hospitals.

Why then, are Midwives charged and arrested, when doctors and hospitals are quietly ‘excused’ from this?

How does this make you feel, that your right for an out of hospital birth could be taken away?

 

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/progressive-parenting/2013/03/29/the-witch-hunt-lives-onmidwifery-the-myth-of-free

Doula Tea at Baby aWEARness

Doula Tea at Baby aWEARness

FREE Event

Sunday, July 22nd

1 p.m. to 3 p.m. 

Manoa Marketplace, 2nd floor

(above Subway)

2752 Woodlawn Drive, Suite 5-209

Honolulu, HI 96822

 

 

Doula curious?

Enjoy some Earth Mama tea samples while learning all about doulas.
Stop by the store and meet some of Honolulu’s finest certified doulas and get all your questions answered. 

Find out how having a doula can be helpful to you and your partner and baby-to-come.

A few questions and topics to think about and explore:
Who should come to my birth?
Why hire a doula?
What are the benefits of having a doula?

Coping with labor, the doula way
The Doula Tea is offered every other month and is free and open to the public. 

Please check our calendar for dates and times or contact:
Piper Lovemore at 861-7168