Someone on a board I frequent: www.hawaiimoms.com
Brought up a very important issue, maternity leave
The U.S. has one of the worst maternity leave policies in the developed world
I can just see how this was a bragging right at some point that, “oh yeah, our women workers don’t need to stay home to take care of their babies, they’re right back out to work a few weeks after giving birth *smug laughter*”
Unfortunately for our society and especially for our babies and mother’s, aside from trauma in birth seperating from your infant before you are ready too just isn’t right.
That maternal feeling mother’s have to stay with their baby has to be shut off in order to return to work. Of course there are mother’s who can do both but I think for the most part, the baby and mother lose out on important bonding time.
I hope that what I say here or anywhere for that matter doesn’t get women defensive about their decisions. Because of course we have to do what we have to do to survive and take care of our family.
What we should do with any feelings of hurt, discuss, competitiveness, defensiveness is turn it into demanding change.
We as women need to demand what we know in our souls to be right, to be done.
Six weeks is not long enough for a mother and baby to form a solid bond, nursing relationship etc
Until we stop trying to beat each other down, we can never lift each other up.